This blog has been a work in progress for a few weeks now, as I’ve been taking mental notes about what the subject would be and what angle I would take. The experiences and occurrences of my [personal] life often set the precedent for it, so here we go!
Countdowns, in my opinion, give us something to look forward to and allow for heightened excitement and productivity.
Eight weeks. 56 days.
Miss New Jersey 2015.
In two months, I will be on a brightly lit stage competing for the job and opportunity of a lifetime.
While most only see the pretty faces, stunning gowns, teeny bikinis, fit bodies and entertainment, the work and stories behind those pretty faces and in those pretty minds is what matters most. The courage to stand up in front of hundreds and potentially thousands is SCARY (trust me, I know), but a unique chance to prepare you for other facets of life. I have obtained communication skills, an appreciation for drive and passion and the ability to serve as an advocate for women’s empowerment. Above all, I have acquired the skills and appreciation to live my life in a way that is conducive to who I am and where I’m going. It’s taught me tenacity and that settling should never be an option.
There’s a world outside of the four walls you are confined to, the mindset you’ve adapted and the heart that may be hiding behind a heavily guarded fence.
Living means loving. I am someone who hangs onto every word that is spoken or written to me. There’s validity and value in speaking words with and of sincerity. If you love for the sake of mere convenience, you are cheating yourself of what the meaning of love actually is. There’s a love for life that has to be present, not only for people, but for occurrences, work, experiences, cultures and the idea that each day holds a new light and new message.
“If we empty our hearts every night, they won’t get too heavy or cluttered. Our hearts will stay light and open with lots of room for good new things to come.”
Believing is understanding that your purpose, your value, your contribution to this world and this society is more than you could ever anticipate or expect. Everyday encounters shouldn’t go unnoticed or undermined. I have attempted to take the reins on my life, but most times I simply have to let go and let God. If the hard work, dedication, passion and drive are present, the rest is in the universe’s hands. The road less traveled is a dusty one, but you have the ability to clear the way and make your own path as you move along.
Tomorrow? It starts today. It starts with you, with telling yourself that the dreams and goals and needs and wants you list in your head and on paper are obtainable, achievable and reachable.
One of my favorite books/social media campaigns is Humans of New York. This post I loved more than others, so I want to share.
“I wish I’d partied a little less. People always say ‘be true to yourself,’ but that’s misleading because there are two selves. There’s your short term self and there’s your long term self. And if you’re true to your short term self, your long term self slowly decays.”
Interpret that how you will.
You deserve the best in life. Tell yourself that every single day that you are living and breathing, because you grow through the happiness, the pain, the anger, the sadness, the laughter, the mistakes, the regret and the lessons. And when you grow, you take the necessary steps to be exactly who you are meant to be in that particular time and space. Trust the process and remember to enjoy the ride.
The people that pass up on you? Screw ‘em. The ones who doubt you? Prove them wrong.
Remember who makes you laugh and who makes you happy. Those are the ones that you work to keep around.
There’s hope in every tomorrow. Don’t settle for anything less than what you want and what you deserve.
Until next time.