I love with my entire heart. I mean that sincerely. If you can call yourself a family member or friend of mine, you know that without a doubt, I would go to the end of the world with/for you and ask zero questions.
I’m all about life lessons, but the art of letting go is sometimes difficult for me to swallow. I could totally pull an Elsa and just sing life’s problems away, but what happens when the people who once served purpose in your life no longer do so? I mentioned this in my last blog, but some of my relationships have dwindled or diminished and it’s so confusing. The texts stop coming, the phone stops ringing and you’re forced to reevaluate how to take the next step. Is it a matter of trying a little harder or walking away? In my opinion, it’s a little of both.
You can’t walk away from a situation, ANY situation, without being able to say you did everything you possibly could. This goes for relationships of any kind, friendships, an ambition, a job, trying new food (did you really think I wasn’t going to throw that in there?) or watching or playing a new sport. People deserve second chances. Mistakes are made in life and you either take that as a lesson and push forward to be better, or you fall into the same trap over and over, in which case time is wasted and you might as well just make your own movie entitled Groundhog Day.
My friend posted this on Instagram a few days ago and with it she wrote that it was the reason she couldn’t hate people.
“I think I fall in love a little bit with anyone who shows me their soul. Their world is so guarded and fearful. I appreciate rawness so much.”
I find it very difficult to hate people, so I don’t. It takes entirely too much energy, you have to avoid them and all that nonsense. You either spread love or remain indifferent. There’s zero room for hate in this world, and putting that type of negativity into the air is so bad for your karma. Flaws and all, we must accept that sometimes people grow up and grow out of things, even if it’s you.
If someone isn’t making you a priority or isn’t making time for you, walk away before your feelings get hurt. I put every part of myself into my work, my family, my friendships, my hobbies, my ambitions. If my environment doesn’t complement that, it doesn’t belong with or around me.
I don’t believe in ‘new year, new me,’ but I do believe in making meaningful strides to creating a better version of myself (and you!) everyday. One of the promises I made to myself in this new year is give my time and my heart to the people who show me theirs as well. Being immensely selfless is an admirable trait, but also the one thing that can get you hurt over and over again.
It’s amazing what a 20-min phone call or a “catch-up” lunch will do to your mood and your mind. Keep the people that matter, that make time, that make promises and keep them. Those are people who understand you, who value your life and your presence in theirs. We all get busy, but pay attention to what you value most, because I highly doubt it’s how many likes your photo got on the ‘gram.
Love fully, love sincerely, love all the time. What’s meant for you will never pass you. If it’s for you, hold tight. If not, walk away and move on.
“Change is inevitable. Why hold on to what you have to let go of?”
Anna Negrón 